During the adoption process, it’s easy to have an ideal scenario in mind about how the first few days and weeks will be when finally bringing home your baby after working with the adoption center. When you bring your infant home, it may not look exactly like you expected. It’s important through this time to not get frustrated. It is normal to have to take time and adjust to having a new child in the home. Use those first few weeks with your forever child to bond and get acquainted with him or her. Here are some tips and reminders for helping you to develop a bond with your child:
- Remember, bonding can take time, but it will happen. It can’t be forced, but it happens through tender and natural day-to-day interactions.
- Set aside your worries about your child fitting into your family.
- Fussing is okay. All babies do it. It doesn’t mean the infant doesn’t like you, it might be something completely unrelated, like a tummy ache or skin irritation. Take your time and be patient.
- Cuddle your baby, carry him or her in a carrier that will keep them against your body. Play soothing music or sing to the baby.
- Talk to your baby soothingly. Your voice will become more familiar and talking will help to bond. This includes even telling what you are doing as you go about daily chores.
- Let the baby “talk” and carry on conversations by letting the baby coo to questions.
- If you have older children, get them involved in the process. Give the older child(ren) tasks to help keep the baby occupied while you change or bathe the baby, for example.
The adoption center may have other ideas of good activities to help bond with your infant. At A is 4 Adoption, we support both birth mothers with expenses and medical help as well as adoptive families through the process of matching and adopting a child. Talk with our adoption specialists if you have questions about other ways to bond with your infant.