Choosing to put your baby up for adoption is an incredibly difficult decision, and unfortunately, some people in your life may make it even more difficult by not being supportive. If you are unsure of how to talk to your friends and family about your adoption plan, here is what you should know.
1) You decide who needs to know your plan.
When you choose adoption, your pregnancy can be an awkward time. There will be many questions that may be uncomfortable to answer honestly. The most important thing for you to know is that you get to decide who knows your plan. It will likely be a difficult time for you, and having a support system is important. If you don’t feel like you have anyone you can tell, you can always contact us for support. We will always be on your side.
2) Tell them with whatever method feels most comfortable for you.
If you don’t know how someone will react, it might be intimidating for you to imagine telling them outright about your adoption plans. You may decide to test the waters by bringing up the topic of adoption more generally first. If the idea of telling someone face-to-face is nerve-wracking, writing a letter may be a better option for you. It gives you the opportunity to say exactly what you want to say, and gives the receiver a chance to process the information and their emotions about it before speaking to you.
3) Other people’s negative reactions are not about you.
Some people will be upset by idea of you putting your baby up for adoption. These reactions may be hurtful to you, but it’s important to keep in mind that their reactions are not about you. If you have decided adoption is the best option, then it is the best option, and no one else can decide that for you. Understand that most of the time, people are coming from a place of concern, even if what they say distresses you. Try not to take it personally.
Choosing adoption is not easy, but it is a brave and selfless decision. If you need support, don’t hesitate to contact A is 4 Adoption. We offer 24 hour support, so call anytime.