We’ve been discussing the impact that private adoption has on the children who are adopted, according to a study performed by the Child Welfare Information Gateway, specifically the struggles that many face when dealing with grief and a crisis of identity. Next to these two issues, the last problem that adopted persons may face is feeling a constant need to search for their birth family and history.
Even in a closed adoption, the option may be available for birth parents and their children to find each other later in life. However, it is more common for children placed in a semi-open adoption to try to seek their birth parents, as they have some access and idea to who those parents are and where they may be. In an open adoption, the child grows up knowing their birth parents, and has access to them, meaning that the need to seek out their history is much less apparent, but may still be present.
It is important, in most cases, not to deny your child this need to find their birth parents. If they feel inclined to understand their past, they may be facing some crisis of identity, and it could be necessary for them to seek answers in order to fully understand and love themselves as they are.
How to Manage Any Adoption Issues
As always, having a support system surrounding you, full of people who care and understand your situation, can be the best remedy for many of the issues that adoptive parents and children will face. If you or your child feels they need more help, seeking out a counselor who specializes in adoptions can have a profound impact on both you and your child.
If you or your child is struggling with adoption, we’ll help guide you toward the resources you need. As adoptive parents ourselves, we understand how important it is to have people around you who understand, so contact us today!