Placing your baby for adoption is a difficult decision. At A is 4 Adoption, we understand that you want to make sure you’re making the right choice. There are many things you will need to consider before your baby arrives, and our goal is to make each step of the process as easy and stress-free as possible. In order to give you as much information as we can, we’ve addressed some of the most frequently asked questions we receive from birthmothers looking to place their baby for adoption. If you do not find the answers to your questions below, please don’t hesitate to reach out to us, as we are more than happy to help birthmothers all across California.
Q: How much financial assistance can I receive? +
A: When you find out you’re pregnant, wondering how you can afford to care for yourself and your baby may be at the top of your list of concerns. Luckily, if you plan to place your baby for adoption with A is 4 Adoption, we provide support in numerous ways
, including financially. We offer financial assistance for necessities such as housing and utilities, food, cell phones, transportation, and maternity clothes. Our friendly staff members will also be able to assist you with applying for Medi-Cal and other government-funded programs, as well as help you schedule doctor and counseling appointments to ensure the health of both you and your baby.
Q: Can I change my mind? +
A: It’s no secret that placing a baby for adoption is a big decision, and it’s important to consider all of your options. Many birthmothers wonder if they can get their baby back if they change their minds. Birthmothers have the right to change their mind about placing their child for adoption at any time during her pregnancy and up to 30 days after she has placed her baby with the adoptive parents. If you have questions regarding the adoption process, please feel free to contact A is 4 Adoption.
Q: Will I regret my decision? +
A: It’s normal for birthmothers to wonder if they will regret the decision of placing their baby for adoption. At A is 4 Adoption, we do everything we can to ensure that you are secure in your decision. You will be presented with a variety of hopeful adoptive couples to choose from, as it is your decision who will be the right family for your baby, and our hope is that finding a loving family to raise your baby will help put your mind at ease.
Q: How involved can I be in the process? +
A: At A is 4 Adoption, we believe in a hands-on approach for all of our adoptions. For this reason, we make it a point to get to know our birthmothers on a personal level before we assist them with finding the right adoptive family of their choice. We take your preferences into consideration concerning the family you are seeking for your baby, including religion, household environment, parenting styles, educational values, and anything else that might be important to you.
We understand that this can be an overwhelming and emotional task, which is why we try to get to know you and address any questions or concerns you may have, to help put your mind at ease.
Q: Do I get a say in the adoptive family? +
A: Yes! Our staff will present you with prospective families based on your desires for how your baby is to be raised. Once you have chosen a family to adopt your baby, we will notify the adoptive parents that they have been chosen by you.
Q: How do I tell my family about my adoption? +
A: There are several ways you can tell your family and friends about your adoption plans. Many birthmothers choose to tell their loved ones in person, but if you do not feel comfortable doing so, writing a letter can also help you share the news without having to do it face-to-face. Another option is to write a letter containing all of the information you want to share and then reading it to your loved ones out loud. This will ensure that you don’t leave out any important information.
While it may be a good idea to explain your reason for placing your baby for adoption with friends and family, we understand if you want to keep your adoption confidential. The staff at A is 4 Adoption is here to support you no matter what you decide.
Q: How do I place my baby for adoption? +
A: The first step to placing your baby for adoption is to contact A is 4 Adoption. You have the option of giving us a call, sending us a text, or sending us a message on Facebook. Our friendly staff members will be able to answer all of your questions and provide you with the support you need to begin the adoption process. Contact us today for immediate help!
Q: What if my parents kick me out of the house because I’m pregnant? +
A: It’s easier to get through difficult times with the support of family. However, if this is not possible in your case, our caring and supportive staff will guide you through the adoption process with respect and confidentiality. A is 4 Adoption will help you find safe and affordable housing. During this difficult time, it is important that you live in a stress-free environment.
Q: What if the birthfather doesn’t support my adoption plan? +
A: Often birthfathers don’t react well to news of an unplanned pregnancy. Like you, they need time to process the news. After things have calmed down, birthfathers generally are more open to hearing about the opportunity adoption provides both the birth parents and adoptive families. Some birthfathers need to feel involved and want to participate in the process of selecting the adoptive parents. They too, need to have peace of mind and confidence in the adoption plan. A is 4 Adoption is here to assist both of you with this process.
Q: What if I don’t even know where the birthfather is? Does he have any rights? +
A: The State of California protects the rights of birthfathers. If you know where he is, he has the right to know about the adoption plan. If we are unable to locate the birthfather-or, as in some cases where the birthfather is unknown—our adoption attorney will take the necessary steps to locate him, and terminate his rights.
Q: Can I/we meet the parents who will adopt my baby? +
A: Absolutely! You have a right to meet and choose the adoptive parents. Based on your preferences, we present several profiles to you. Then you decide whom you would like to interview. After the interviews, you select the adoptive parents.
Q: Are the adoptive parents screened? +
A: Yes. Every adoptive parent must complete a home study implemented by a licensed adoption agency or by the Department of Social Services. Either way, they are fully screened before an adoption can be finalized.
Q: Can I get photos of my baby after the birth/adoption? +
A: Yes. When you interview prospective adoptive parents, you discuss the level of contact desired by both parties. If you prefer an open adoption that includes receiving pictures of the baby, you select adoptive parents who are comfortable with that.
Q: Can I get assistance with living expenses? +
A: Yes. California state law permits adoptive parents to cover pregnancy-related expenses. If a Birthmother is unable to work because of her pregnancy, the law allows adoptive parents to assist with living expenses such as rent, groceries and utilities. Other permitted expenses include pre-natal care (that is not covered by insurance), counseling, maternity clothes, and transportation fees to and from pre-natal care appointments.
Q: Will The Adoptive Parents And My Birth Mother Advisor Be With Me At The Hospital? +
A: Yes, but only if you want them/us there. We can stay in your room with you, or we can stay in the waiting room. It’s your decision; and we will respect your wishes.
Q: Can I still receive financial support after the baby is born? +
A: Yes. California state law permits adoptive parents to continue supporting the Birth Mother financially after the birth, depending upon the circumstances of each individual case.
Q: Am I totally on my own after the birth? +
A: No. Our staff will follow up with you for as long as you would like. We will continue to assist you with counseling, post-partum care, education and career guidance, finding safe and affordable housing, and emotional support.