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Dealing With Unsupportive Family And Friends

The initial decision to place a baby for adoption can be extremely hard for a birthmother to make, but that decision can be made even more difficult if the birthmother is worried that she may have to go through the adoption process without the support of friends or family members. It can be difficult for family members to accept the fact that birthmothers want to place their baby for adoption. They may try to persuade the birthmother to change her mind, or they may refuse to acknowledge the situation entirely. Whatever the case may be, it can be difficult to go through the adoption process without support, but that’s where A is 4 Adoption can help.

At A is 4 Adoption, we strive to provide birthmothers in California with the support they deserve during this potentially difficult and emotional time. In addition to offering emotional support through every step of the process, we also offer financial support to birthmothers who may be struggling. Explore our financial assistance page to learn more, and if you’re interested in hearing about the adoption process and how we can help, reach out to us by calling 949-395-7899 or messaging us on Facebook messenger today. In the meantime, continue reading below for a few tips on how you can talk to friends and family members about your adoption plan.

Educate Them About Modern Adoption

One of the most common reasons family and friends aren’t supportive of a birthmother’s decision to place her baby for adoption is because they don’t fully understand modern adoption. In the past, adoption often involved orphanages, the foster care system, secrecy, or closed adoptions, but that’s not the case for modern adoption. The entertainment industry has also had a role in painting adoption in bad light, as the portrayal of adoption in TV, movies, and books is typically far from accurate.

With modern adoption, birthmothers are the ones who are in charge of every decision throughout the adoption process, ensuring they can set their child up for a happy, fulfilling life. Additionally, many adoptions are open adoptions, meaning the birthmother or birth family can have a relationship with the child and watch them grow up.

Taking the time to explain the difference between modern adoption and what your friends or family have in mind may be just what they need to put their minds at ease and fully support your decision.

Discuss Adoptive Parents

Another reason friends and family of the birthmother may be upset about their decision is because they don’t understand why they can’t be the ones to adopt the child. This situation especially applies to the parents of the birthmother. They may feel upset that the birthmother didn’t come to them to adopt the baby so that the child could stay in the family. This can put the birthmother in a difficult position.

If you find yourself in this position, consider explaining the idea of adoptive parents to your family. Try and help them understand that kinship adoption can be both socially and emotionally confusing for all parties involved. It may also be a good idea to try and explain to your loved ones how and why you made the decision to place your baby for adoption with an adoptive family. If you’ve already gone through the adoption process and chosen your baby’s adoptive parents, show your family and friends the profile to give them a better idea of how your baby will grow up.

Reiterate That You Would Appreciate Their Support

Once you’ve taken the time to explain your decision to your family, it’s a good idea to reiterate that you would appreciate their support. Explain how important they are to you and how much their support in your decision would mean to you. If asking for their support once more still doesn’t make them understand, it’s important to know that you will never be truly alone in your decision — you will always have the support of our team at A is 4 Adoption, other birthmothers, and the child’s adoptive family.

Stand Firm With Your Decision

We understand that it can be difficult to feel like you’re going through the adoption process alone, and that may cause you to second guess your decision. However, when you start feeling that way, it’s important to stand firm with your decision. Think about why you made the choice to place your baby for adoption in the first place and the life they will have with their new adopted parents. If you still feel alone, don’t hesitate to reach out to your adoption specialist at A is 4 Adoption, as we’re always here to provide you with support when you need it most.

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At A is 4 Adoption, our professional team of adoption specialists is here to provide you with everything you need during the adoption process, whether you’re in need of financial assistance throughout the pregnancy or you need emotional support. We know how difficult it can be going through the process without the support of your loved ones, and we are here to help in any way that we can. To learn more about the adoption process and our California adoption center, call us at 949-395-7899 or reach out via Facebook messenger today.

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