A Is 4 Adoption Has Changed My Life!

Dear Laurie and A is 4 Adoption Team,

shutterstock_97734281I am writing this letter to let you and other women with an unplanned pregnancy know how you and the work that you do at A is 4 Adoption has changed my life.  I am 26 years old.  I grew up in a broken home.  My mother raised me alone, or should I say I raised myself while she struggled to put food on our table.  My father was never around and my mother’s boyfriends never took the time to try to get to know me, only to hit on me.  When I was sixteen I had finally had enough.  I left home and dropped out of school thinking I would be better off on my own.  I guess you could say I got involved with all the wrong people.  People who really didn’t care about me or what happened to me.  When I got pregnant, I was collecting a little unemployment, sleeping on a friends couch when she would let me, and sometimes cleaning apartments.  I hardly knew my baby’s father but knew enough to know he wouldn’t help me.  I was barely making it on my own and knew I couldn’t handle a child.  I knew the easy thing to do would be to just get an abortion, but I didn’t really want to and I guess I waited too long.

Then a friend referred me to A is 4 Adoption.  She had placed a baby with them a few years back and she said it had been a good experience, so after a long struggle, I gave them a call.  I didn’t want to call at first because I thought that I would be judged and that they would be trying to stick their nose in my business and tell me how to live my life.  They had no idea about my life, about what I have been through and how hard I have tried or how desperate I was feeling.  I thought they would be just in it to get my baby.  Nothing could have been further from the truth.

On our first phone conversation, Shelly spent most of the time asking about me.  How was I doing.  How was I feeling.   Did I have a place to stay, enough food to eat and clean clothes to wear.  The basic stuff that people who have more, just assume you have.  Then she wanted to make sure that my baby and I were safe, that nobody was hurting me or taking advantage of me.  I had never had anyone treat me like they cared like this before.  After a conversation that lasted over an hour, I hung up the phone and began to cry.  They were on their way to meet me.  They were going to help me find a safe place to live so I wouldn’t have to worry about where I was going to sleep.  They took me food shopping, bought me some clean clothes, got me my own cell phone and even took me to the doctors for my first baby check up.  It was so nice to know that my baby was alright.  They never pressured me.  They helped me every step along the way and truly helped me get my life back on track.

They introduced me to the perfect couple for my baby and let me choose what kind of adoption I wanted.  I couldn’t be happier about the family that my child is now with.  They are loving and kind and I know my child has a bright future.  With the love and support I received during my pregnancy, I now have my life on track.  I have an apartment, I have found a steady job that I like and I am even taking some classes.

I feel so blessed to have gone through this painful but wonderful experience.  It is amazing to know that I have changed the life of a child.  A child that almost wasn’t.  I am so grateful that I had the courage to make the call and am now finding courage I never knew I had.